Bachelors - be careful..!

This dialogue sequence is real one and observed in the canteen at dinner time

A boy and a girl (by guess, young married couple) were sitting next to my table in the canteen..
They had brought their own food in their carry-boxes.. they were opening the boxes and started their conversation:

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Girl: En phone pannave illa?
Boy: (no answer.. busy in opening the box)
Girl: Kekarenla.. en phone pannave illa?
Boy: (no answer.. busy in opening the box)
Girl: unkita-dhaan pesitiruken.. phone en panala?
Boy: naan ena sonaalum nee sonadhudhaan correct-nu solla pora
Girl: haan.. naan solradhu correct-dhaan..
(silent both the sides)
Girl: naandhaan padichu padichu afternoon solirundhenla.. apram en phone panala?
Boy: (no answer - eating)
Girl: rest room vandha vudane phone-a eduthu paathiruppalla.. thirumba panradhukenna?
Boy: (no answer - eating)
Girl: naan call pannunaadhaan nee call pannuviyaa? neeya oru dhadava kooda call pana maatta?
Boy: (no answer - eating)
Girl: ketutu irukenla? sollu.. en call panala?
Boy: (no answer - eating)
Girl: unkita dhaan pesitiruken..
Boy: (murmuring something)
Girl: appo naan enna loosaa?
(silent - tears!!)

Girl: enna pannittu irundha?
Boy: (said something in low tone)
Girl: Ohh... naan call pannuven-nu mobile-a paatthute ukkaandhirundhiyaa?
Boy: (no answer - eating)
Girl: idhu unakke konjam over-aa therla? nee phone panniruka vendiyadhudhaane naan panalainaa?
Boy: (said something in low tone)
Girl: haan.. adhelaam solaadhaa.. adhu elorumdhaan panuvaanga.. ippo ennanu sollu
Boy: (no answer - eating)
Girl: modhalla call pannunaa thirumba panna maattiyaa?
Boy: (no answer - eating)
Girl: yeii.. kekudhaa naan solradhu?
Boy: (said something in low tone)
Girl: ennadhu? apdidhaan pesuven.. nee kettudhaan aaganum.. 
Boy:  (stopped eating - staring at somewhere)
Girl: anga enna paarvai unakku ippo? kekaradhuku bathil solu first
Boy: (no answer - eating)
Girl: oru thadavai call pannirukalaamla?

Me: adadaaa.. marupadiyum modhalla irundhu start panraangadaaa... aala vudunga saami..
(by this time, ennoda dinner plate gaali aagiduchi.. adhoda evloo neramdhaan tamil theriyaadha maadhiriye nadikaradhu..!? :) )


So guys, BE CAREFUL..! but still nobody can save us.. so BE READY!

Enjoy the "bachelor" life,
Nimal

Living the Life

  
"If you never failed, you never lived!" - quote

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We failed when we were 1feet and were trying to put ourself uncomfortable to move a little distance
We failed when we were 2feet and were trying to go for a walk though We never had a prior experience of it
We failed when we were 3feet and were trying to handle the much complicated two wheels vehicle, all with our little hands & legs
We failed when we were 4feet and were trying to find time to extract everything out of the whole set of books

Are those failures spoiled our life?? No, isn't it? Actually all these failures allowed us to realize that we live our life to the fullest..
Now the actual question is - Are we willing to fail now?

To say frankly, once we have grown enough, we start afraid of the failure.. Nobody wants to fail in any moment of their life, that means - Nobody wants to live their life.
We may have stopped growing in height but we have more and more to try in our life.

"TRY" - its a simple word to spell but tough one to put that in execution!
Try may not always end up in success; most likely it may end up in failure but it atleast gives a chance to realize that we are living..

Instead of repeating the regular routine work again and again, Are we really trying to do something different in our day to day life??

Sometimes we may get a cross question in our mind - what is the need of "different" when already things are going well?
Its a valid question and the answer is as simple as that why do we try different menu for everyday lunch when the curdrice is a very good choice.

Ok, well. when talking about "doing different", the direction of thoughts may divert in various directions depends on the mood of the person..
Just to limit that to a single channel, consider that we are talking about "doing different" in simple activities.
Because, when we think about something different, we may end up with thinking about the AIM of our life.
That is good but finding the AIM requires lot of self realizing and not an over night decision.

Back to the main focus, when start thinking about the "doing different", Its always good to start fresh, like a child.

"Distance is nothing; it's only the first step that is difficult." - quote

We never imagined that we can walk around the whole world when we tried for our first step.
We never worried about how many times we fell down before a successful short walk

Those beginning days are happy days and everyone likes to live the days again!
Its not possible to go back to those days until unless if we are able to rotate the earth the other way around..!
but it is possible to live that 'kind of' life again by a fresh start, like those beginning days!

When thinking about the "try", usually the plan starts either by targeting something big or by setting up a comfortable path before walking thru it.
Neither of these approaches work out most of the times..

"Try" is always associated with a risk and so if we want to "try" something then there shouldn't be any trace of worry about the risk associated with it.
ONLY IF we take the leg off from the ground, we will able to make the first successful step..! That first step will give the confidence which will be good enough to win the world..!

We are not here to accept our life as it comes; we are here to re-define it in an unique way!
So, TRY something "DIFFERENT" that nobody has ever done! Never worry about failure instead live all those moments!

After-all, Life is not just a word to spell.. but to live it!

Enjoy the "different" life,
Nimal

[ps: some content/context - Inspired by the line from old movie song - "Undu undu endru nambi kaalai edu.."]

உன் ஓர பார்வையிலே..

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கண் சிமிட்டும் நேரத்தில், ஏதோ ஒன்று குறைகின்றதே என்னுள்..

வயதோ? - இத்தனை நாள் வாழ்ந்ததற்கான அத்தாட்சி அதுதானே
அது மறந்து உன் முன் மழலையாய் மாறி போனேனே..

கனமோ? - நீ என்னை கடந்து செல்லும்போதெல்லாம்
புவியீர்ப்பு விசை தாண்டி மேகங்கள் நடுவே  நீந்த கற்றேனே..

நினைவோ? - இத்தனை சிந்தனைகள் ஒரு போதும் எட்டி பார்த்ததில்லையே
ஏனோ இன்று கனவைக் கூட கவிதையாய் கண்டேனே..

கடைசியாக கண்டு கொண்டேன், தொலைந்தது என் இதயம் என்று..

இருந்தது  ஒன்றுதானே, போனால் போகட்டுமென விடுவதற்கு
உன்னிடமே கேட்கிறேன் பிரச்சினை எப்படி தீர்ப்பதென்று..

என் கேள்விக்கு பதிலாக ஒரு புதிர் புன்னகை கொடுத்தாய் -
அந்த சின்ன சிரிப்பிலே புரிய வைத்தாய் -
தொலைந்து போனது இதயம் மட்டுமல்ல, அத்தனையும்தான் என்று..

குற்றத்தை நீ ஒப்புகொண்டாய் - தண்டனையை நான் ஏற்று கொண்டேன்

அன்று முதல் -

கடிகாரத்தில் கால பற்றாக்குறை கண்டேன்

காலம் கடந்தாலும் காத்திருக்க கற்று கொண்டேன்

தொலைபேசி கட்டணம் காற்றாய் பறக்க கண்டேன்

வங்கி கணக்குகள் கட்டுக்கடங்காமல் குறைய கண்டேன்

பொறுமையின் எல்லையில் காலடி தடங்கள் பதிய கண்டேன்

கொஞ்சம் நஞ்சமிருந்த சுதந்திரம் சுருங்க கண்டேன்

கண்மூடி தூங்கும்போது நிம்மதி கண்டேன்

மாற்றுவது கடினமென கண்டேன் -
மாறுவது எளிதென கண்டேன்

கண் சிமிட்டும் நேரத்தில் தொலைத்தது, என் வாழ்கையென கண்டேன் -
உன் ஓர பார்வையிலே..

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- நிமல்

Disclaimer: This is 100% purely an imaginary poetry and believe me, no real characters involved..! :-)

The God - An Healthy Perspective

God is very familiar to all of us. He is with us from our childhood days.. - rt?
Have you ever tried to remember when he got introduced to you? May be in childhood days or schooldays atleast. Isn't it?

Usually when we get introduced to one of our friend, we used to ask common questions like 'where are you from?' 'How is your life going?' 'what do you plan for weekend'.. etc.
Have you remember asking any of these question to your God?
If one ask these questions to the God, then he'll be named as controversial person.
But its true when someone wants to create the controversy they really start with these questions. This situation need not to be vice-versa,
We are all believing on a person/power completely and we rely on him for each and every action that we take, but we don't try to know about him.
We always ask him whatever we need, but we don't try to ask about him.

Its a very good opportunity for you now - Ask these questions to yourself and try to find the answer.
Don't try to find the answer from any reference books but instead get it from inside you.

Finding hard? Huh, for me too..
Here below I'm just trying to mingle the known scientific facts and very few imaginary truths together.
Well, I remember the school lessons where we studied that the human being started with Fire as their first scientific innovation. During that period, we have also studied that people were afraid of WildFire, Flood, Hurricanes, basically all the natural disasters.
Thats all because the common man could not control the natural happenings and they started believing that these natural disasters are superior than human being.
We all know what is the result - People started worshiping the Fire, Water, Soil, Wind or whatever..
For every set of people they had their own 'uncontrollable' things. I mean, For one set of people, WildFire is the threat which made Fire as their God. For one set of people, Flood is the threat which made Water as their God.
This is the starting.. I, world believe.

Then its all happened when kingdoms are formed under the control of a King who is the threat for their people. You may see in other way that King is the one who gives all that people need and so people accepted him as King. I totally agree, but we need to notice one thing in the history.. A person became as a King by winning the set of people in the war; definitely not by fulfiling the needs of people.
Now every set of people got their own King as God and they have to worship him to save their lives.
And it goes-on well day by day, just forget those days becoz you finally will understand the above was applicable to all the revolutions till date.
Now comeback to today and you have your own God with you to worship.. If you simply apply the above rules, the meaning will be - your God is your threat and you worship him to save your lives. I dont really mean that anyway..!
After the kingdoms period, the leader (or King) changed the approach in looking at People (that leads to change in approach of God too..!)
The set of people started getting help from the King (or leader) to make their life stable and comfortable.
Now King wanted to write some rules which he wanted people to follow them strictly.
He writes set of rules and applies. but the next one trashes them and prepares a new set. The very next one do the same.
Oops, this shouldn't happen. So the brilliant one decided not to write the rules in the paper and put them on onething which is reliable for ever - the God.
Dont understand? Ok. As a simple example, If I just say, give your one part of the food grains to me, you will not definitely agree and reply - a big 'NO'.
But If I say, give your one part of the food grains to the God, you say - 'with pleasure'.
This is the starting.. I, world believe.

Now again the approach changes - the King forms a research committee to find the must things for the better life (eg, medicines for the deceases) and as a result of the research he comes to know about many important things like the power of some medicines, healthy food items, need of exercises, meditation and much more.
Now the real good leader/king wants to educate their people with all his findings of the committee of research holders.
Do you think, he can easily include everything in the school syllabus and release as new books?? :)
Not possible - rt? Thats why he found the best way again - God. Just form the regulations one needs to follow in the name of God and it automatically reaches people easily and perfectly.
So, whenever you see people in neat dress with high discipline in the temples - Don't thank God, Thank your 'un-known' king.

Oops, I just realized why I started this for..
So your question now may be - Is God just formed to educate people about some good things?
I don't really mean that..!
So far we just discussed that how people used/misused the name of the God..
Now the real world scenario..
Most of us live with un-answered questions about our God.
Some of us say, I have all the answers and even I have very good stories to tell about.
Some of us say, I know there is nothing called 'God'
Few of us say, I know that only my God exists in the world and all others are just blabbering.

Oops, So many opinions on a single word 'God' ??!! Ok, just one question..
When you escape from a small accident in the road, just listen what words are coming out of your mouth..!
'Ohh.. just miss', 'Ohh.. No, great escape', or whatever.
Its true that when the things are going out of your control, you need some one's help. That someone you want to be a super power to help you out. And you believe that that super power is your God.
When you are in very danger and if a small boy comes out to help you there, will you say 'No, you just go.. I'm waiting for my God, the super power to help'?
Now, your argument would be, my super power only has sent the small boy to help me out.
Hmm.. whatever, You believe that someone is there to help you when the things are out of control..

Atleast all the people with different opinions have the strong belief on their point about God
You believe that God exists.
You believe that God does not exist.
You believes that God is with you.
You believes that God is the super power.
You believes that God will help them in hard times.
You believes that ...
Yes, all of you correct.. God lives in everyone's belief.

Where is he?
My friend said that Take a left from here and second right - street corner, there God is. Yes, he is correct.
My another friend believes that God is there near the seashore in another city. Yes he is correct.
My another friend believes that God is everywhere and in the heart of children. Yes, he is correct
My another friend believes that Love is God. Yes, he is also correct
And I believe, God is everywhere and even inside me too.

Where ever the belief is, God exists.

All my points are -
* you don't search for God, he is super power and he knows how to help you when you are helpless.
* Follow your God since your well-wisher king has published every good findings in the name of God.
* Tell God that - you have got everything that you need to achieve from him and Tell him that just forget about you and help others.
* Don't list your needs in your prayers, instead just grow your belief on him
* And finally, plz don't argue that 'your God' is the super power than others. There is no God fighting in the street to prove their power, only the man who created the God is fighting in the street.


Believe in you and Enjoy the life,
Nimal